The need to be genuinely *in* experience —
not observing it from a distance, not performing
it, not managing it, but fully inhabiting the
present moment. Both one's own presence to
oneself, and the presence of another within
a shared experience.
Presence is both a need and a condition —
without it, other needs (mutuality, connection,
meaning) cannot be fully met regardless of
what else is in place.
## Feelings that signal this need is unmet
[[Disconnected]] | [[Withdrawn]] | [[Restless]]
[[Lonely]] | [[Invisible]]
## How it commonly manifests
A sense of going through the motions — of
being physically in a situation without
genuinely being *in* it. Can be produced
by wrong conditions (pace too fast,
insufficient safety, wrong atmosphere)
or by internal habits of observation
and management that prevent full inhabiting.
## Values filter question
*Am I actually here, or am I watching
myself be here?*
## Related needs
[[Need - Ease]] | [[Need - Safety]]
[[Need - Mutuality]] | [[Need - Authenticity]]
[[Need - To Be Seen]]